THIS WEEKS TOPIC:
“What is the best way to handle your best friend hooking up with your guy?”
SHORT ANSWER:
LONG ANSWER:
No one with a decent head on their shoulders with decent human beings for friends believes this kind of sh*t actually happens or that it could ever happen to them, but believe me it does. As if getting cheated on isn’t already a blow, how bout add a little insult to injury and throw people you care about (and who are supposed to care about you) into the mix. This may seem like a complicated situation but as far as I’m concerned there’s a pretty simple solution. I don’t care what circumstances in the situation came in to play; I don’t care if you we’re practically broken up, if you’d been broken up for a while, if you were still together, if it was a short lived fling, or if you we’re having problems and possibly on the way out because it all boils down to one thing: your friend/your boyfriend/girlfriend is OFF LIMITS as far as the other is concerned. From now until forever, the unwritten rule is they may not hook up (in any sense of the meaning). Exceptions to the rule of course occur; it possibly has been a long time after the breakup, you’re in a new relationship, you could sense their connection, etc, but even then, even with your well wishes and “acceptance”, be careful.
When you actually become the victim of a bad friend and boyfriend situation I can only imagine dropping their asses like a lead balloon would be much easier said than done, it takes a lot of guts to be able to cut seemingly important people out of your life. But letsbereal, the right move is to *calmly* remove stress and negativity from the equation. At that point, I don’t know about you, but I’d want some time to reevaluate their importance and necessity in my life. How much good and positivity is gained from your relationship with them that can you attribute to your own happiness? Whether that be friend or significant other? Even more importantly, how freakin sorry do either appear to be if at all?!
The breaking of trust between a significant other and a best friend at the same time is traumatizing, but never forget what kind of relationships you feel you deserve – be it friends or more than friends. If your relationship to them appears not all that important, should they be a part of your life and what makes you a better person in the first place? Probably not and you know it. We could go around the merry-go-round for hours talking about this subject but the most obvious answer is to forget ’em. That doesn’t have to mean for forever, especially if they’re not evil people and can see where they went wrong. But at the end of the day good people, good friends, good partners, don’t treat those they care about in that manner, it’d definitely be a relationship worth reconsidering.
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